28 year old woman dating a 22 year old man
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Age isn't your problem here The Hall of Justice 25, posts, read 34,, times Reputation: Hey guys just curious if a woman who is 31 years old was into a guy who is 26 me , would the age gap be too large for it to be considered normal. It's a five year gap, and to me that just seems too much for what is "normal" It would be okay if the man was 26 and she was 21 but the other way around feels too milfy, or cougarish. But what if everything about the other person you liked, you liked their personality, you found them attractive, etc Does it say about me that I wasn't able to attract a younger woman so there is something wrong with me?
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What says more about you is the fact that you would ask this question. As far as I'm concerned it's fine. There's no right or wrong in this sort of situation. If it's working for you then that's all there is to the matter. Of course this is fine. A five year age difference at that age is nominal.
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Maturity might be an issue, but you'll get that in any relationship, irrespective of the age difference. There is nothing wrong with you. This relationship seems quite normal, to my eyes. Granted, I've dated people where there was a MUCH bigger age difference than this, so maybe my perspective is slightly different to other people's. But it's not like you're 16 and she's Yes and who cares. Are you two happy with the relationship? Either you're into them or you're not. Don't go fishing subconsciously or not for reasons to not go for it. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out.
But, 5 years is a silly reason to not try.
I think that the mental and emotional maturity gap between 21 and 26 is much, much larger than the gap between 26 and If a 26 year old friend were dating a 21 year old, I'd likely question the friend's maturity level. The genders are, to me, irrelevant. If you're uncomfortable with the age difference, don't date this person. But if you like her, stop judging her and yourself for your dating choices. Dating someone younger than you is not a badge of your sexual attractiveness, and dating someone older than you should not be viewed as a sacrifice.
If you're ashamed of her or of yourself because of her age, do her the favor of breaking things off so that she can find someone who is proud to be with her. My Mom and Dad are 10 years apart. I look 26 but am 43, and my gf is Let people deal, it's not a big problem unless you make it a big problem. It sounds like you don't respect this woman, or at least, the age difference is a deal breaker for you.
What matters is what you and the woman think about this, not what we do. Well, if you're going to end up trying to turn her into your proxy-mom or vice-versa that could be a problem, but now that I think about it that is a dynamic that happens regardless of age I am older than my husband by 6. We met when he was in his senior year of college and 22 and I was What matters is whether your levels of maturity match, not your calendar age. If it's okay for a man to date a woman five years younger, it's okay for a woman to date a man five years younger.
You have been trained, by our culture, to see relationships between an older man an a younger woman as normal, and the opposite as abnormal. This is't how it actually works, though; plenty of women are with younger men, especially a gap of only five years. This shows the origin of this question. You've been taught by our society that younger women are "better. This is, to be blunt, complete sexist bullshit. Having a girlfriend who is a few years older than you says nothing about you, but worrying about it does.
It says you are insecure. A friend of mine started a relationship like that a couple of years ago. She was 29 when they started dating, I suppose. They got married two weeks ago. This sort of thing, as with almost any relationship, is almost entirely dependent on the people involved. A 5 year age difference when both parties are adults is totally fine and normal. If you think this way already, what you are going to think when it's time for your friends to meet your girlfriend? Are you going to be embarrassed about her being 5 years closer to wearing Depends diapers or something?
Of course its ok. But please make sure she never sees this question or knows about your concerns because it would be really hurtful and if I were her it would be amble reason to not date you or to dump you if I was. It would be okay if the man was 26 and she was 21 but the other way around feels too milfy, or cougarish. Also, I'd just like to request that you and society as a whole work super-hard to unpack yourselves of this notion. If you could see your way clear.
Because, "An age and power differential is okay as long as it's the man in power"? A 26 year old guy, dating a 31 year old woman, is it okay? As far as your references to "milfy" or "cougarish", ummmmmmm, I'm I'm not a mom or even vaguely matronly. You and I most likely have virtually identical life experiences and overall approaches to the world.
We like the same bands, watch the same TV shows and movies, and are nostalgic about the same Saturday morning cartoons. The age difference is perfectly acceptable, and i know plenty of successful couples with that type of age gap. You, on the other hand, sound immature and judgmental about both gender relations and age, and so it probably won't work out, unless your prospective girlfriend is willing to be considered milfy or a cougar, but she probably won't.
A five year age difference is of no consequence if the two people involved are at the same stage of maturity. This does not seem to be the case here.
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She needs to be dating someone more in her maturity bracket. You need to mature some more. I would never ever date a woman and not be proud of her, and hide her from my friends, it wouldnt be fair. I haven't even asked her out yet but it seems like she wants me to. If I was in a relationship with her then I'd most certainly be happy with what she was posted by curious-mind at 2: Um, yes, it's fine.
My 31 year old girlfriend says no, it is not ok. Like most things, it's okay with some people and not okay with others. If you want to date this woman, pursue that goal. The reason I asked this question about me being "okay" with dating an older woman, was reading a okcupid research article saying how most men compete for younger women, and there were guys in the comment section saying things like "Yeah if you can't get a younger woman its because you got priced out and you suck" I tried to not let it bother me but it did. That as a statistic men chase younger women, and dating an older woman is looked upon as failing to be able to compete with other men.
So far so good. He's not concerned about the difference at all. If you two really gel as a couple then people won't see a 5 year difference in your ages. Yeah, I think you're probably too immature for this relationship, dude. Okay wait, you are making life decisions based on the internets comments section of a dating site article?
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Cut this shit out. Anyway, in my early-mid 30s I dated a guy very seriously for several years who was about four years younger. The reasons it didn't work out had nothing to do with our age gap. Here's where it could potentially become an issue - if she wants to have children, she is facing a much steeper timeline than you are right now in life. Where two twentysomethings can wait and see where things go, maybe get married, maybe think about kids when it feels right - a couple in their 30's do have to face the reality that female fertility starts declining after So if you don't think you want kids in the next 10 years, and she does -- the relationship can't work in the long run.
It sounds from your question and followups that you're focusing on a lot of superficial externals about how it might affect you rather than the heart of the matter - what is she looking for in you? Gwyneth Paltrow is five years older than Chris Martin. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I know if I were in her year-old shoes I would want to know if I was seeing someone who used the word "cougar" seriously in any non-feline context, let alone applied to how others might view our relationship, has no problem with a double standard, i. If she doesn't know, I suggest you tell her.
Not sure if cereal? I mean, if you have no option that night, and she is attractive, go right ahead but, to purposely go out after has been pussy is absurd. Originally Posted by gatovolador. OP can't be srs, is this srs? If you're waiting for good things to come to you, you'll be waiting for a pretty long time. Originally Posted by Merc Originally Posted by Firstoone.
Unless you're suuuper mature it's probably not a good idea, unless you want someone who's gonna mother you. Originally Posted by NoScope. Originally Posted by Jessthemess Originally Posted by amidamaru. Originally Posted by Plushophile.